Vienu dienu, dodoties ravēt puķu dārzu, mūs ar dēlu gaidīja pārsteigums - miris putns. Pirmā doma, kas iešāvās prātā:"Jāpaķer puika un jāmetas bēgt, kamēr viņš vēl nav ieraudzījis putniņu!" Bet veselais saprāts ņēma virsroku! Bēgšanas vietā izlēmu dēlam paskaidrot, kas noticis ar putniņu. Nemeklējot aplinkus ceļus, teicu, ka putniņš ir nomiris vai nu aiz vecuma vai arī no slimības, ka putniņa dvēselīte tagad ir debesīs pie Dieviņa, tikai ķermenis palicis uz Zemes. Un šis ķermenītis ir jāaiznes uz mežu, no kurienes nācis putniņš. Mežs par putniņu pratīs parūpēties vislabāk!
Tā nu atradām skaistu meža zvaniņu krūmu, pie kura arī atstājām to, kas no putniņa palicis pāri.
Tagad, pārdomājot visu šo situāciju, priecājos, ka esmu bijusi godīga pret dēlu un viņam visu paskaidrojusi, nevis metusies bēgt. Mums, pieaugušajiem, par nāvi ir, maigi izsakoties, neērti runāt, tomēr tam ir jātiek pāri! Bērnam ir jārada veselīga attieksme pret nāvi un jāļauj saprast, ka tas ir normāls dzīves process. Ir svarīgi bērnam paskaidrot, ka ar nāvi jau nekas nebeidzas, viss tikai pārveidojas, un dvēsele, kas aizgājusi pie Dieviņa, pēc kāda laika atgriežas, tikai citādākā veidolā! Bet pats svarīgākais, kas jāiemāca bērnam - ar dvēseli, kas pametusi Zemi mēs nekad nešķiramies. Mēs varam sarunāties ar to, kad vien vēlamies un tā ir mums līdzās vienmēr, kad mums tas nepieciešams!
Būsim drosmīgi un runāsim ar bērniem atklāti arī par tēmām, kas mums pašiem ir neērtas!
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One day my little son and I went to weed the flower garden. When we got there we found a surprise - dead bird! My firsth thought was to catch a boy and run as fast as I can, just not to prevent that he sees that dead bird. But common sense took control and I decided to show my son body of this dead bird. I told him that this birdie is dead now, that it died either from age or disease and now birdie's soul is in the Heaven with God, but it's body remained here on Earth and now we have to take care of it. So we took the dead bird and carry it to the forest where we found a very beautiful forest bell bush and next to it buried our birdie.
When I'm now thinking about this situation, I am glad that I was honest with my son. I am glad that I didn't run away, but told him the truth. For us adults it's hard and uncomfortable to talk about death, but when we are faced with such a situation, we have to get over our fear. It's very important to build our children a healthy attitude towards death, to explain that death is a normal process of life, to explain that death is not the end, but just a soul's transformation. It's important to explain our children that the soul after death is going home - to Heaven where it will be connected to God again, that soul is immortal and it will be able to come down to Earth whenever it will want to come. And what's the most important thing we have to teach to our children - we can talk to these souls whenever we want and they are next to us whenever we need it!
So lets be brave and talk openly un honestly to our children even if conversation topics seem to be heavy and awkward!
Madara
When I'm now thinking about this situation, I am glad that I was honest with my son. I am glad that I didn't run away, but told him the truth. For us adults it's hard and uncomfortable to talk about death, but when we are faced with such a situation, we have to get over our fear. It's very important to build our children a healthy attitude towards death, to explain that death is a normal process of life, to explain that death is not the end, but just a soul's transformation. It's important to explain our children that the soul after death is going home - to Heaven where it will be connected to God again, that soul is immortal and it will be able to come down to Earth whenever it will want to come. And what's the most important thing we have to teach to our children - we can talk to these souls whenever we want and they are next to us whenever we need it!
So lets be brave and talk openly un honestly to our children even if conversation topics seem to be heavy and awkward!
Madara
